Reasons
1. We are loosing patience. World is moving so fast, that no one wants to wait for a second.
2. Our sense of huminity is so low that, we don't want to consider others' problems.
3. Our knowledge of huminity is quite low. We are MBA, Engineer, Doctors,....etc, but we are not human.
It is said "Adh jal bhari gagri chhalkat jaye." means- half filled bucket is more unstable than full bucket.
Our knowledge of humanity, social behavior is quite less, that's why we making so much noise. We do not want to consider other's problems. We only cares about ourself.
Specially in case religious/society extremism (consider Islamic extremism,Gujjars/Meenas case, Dera socity case )
The only way to cop with Extremism is to understand each other, listen each other's problem, provide a solution for that. Most of the time we don't have solution of our problem but we have solution for other's problems. It is also easier to solve other's problems than our own problems.
So why not we solve other's problem and ask other to solve our problem.
Another reason of Extremism is lack of understanding of cultures and religions. Specially in the case of Islamic Extremism. People consider others act as what other's religion say.
I'm Muslim, I have studied Islam. Islam is the most flexible religion. It gives you more freedom than that any other religion in the world. If u try study everything abt Islam, I think 100 yrs will be short time. Everything is explained in details with reasons and cases.
The problem is that Muslims are not flexible. Most of muslims doesn't have proper education. Also quality of in India also poor.